Trauma – It’s More Widespread Than Previously Believed

The word ‘trauma’ has become a common one in our language. It is widely recognized in the armed forces with the term PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) which describes the after affects of trauma We tend to associate trauma symptoms with extreme experiences such as...

Emotional Abuse – The Hidden Abuse

I refer to emotional abuse as ‘hidden’ because it is given far less recognition than other forms of abuse, such as physical or sexual. The victim is often blamed. They are “oversensitive” and basically not able to “take it, like other people do”. What is Emotional...

The Hardest Person to Forgive – Yourself

Forgiveness is a subject that has been endlessly discussed. There are pros and cons. Some people insist it is necessary in order ‘to move on’. Others say forgiveness is forced and artificial. Whatever side you’re on it is agreed that we need to let go of past hurts. ...

Succeeding in Therapy

  ““My therapist has helped me learn to understand that if you don’t unpack your own emotional baggage it’s no longer baggage–it’s deadweight.”  ― Gina Barreca,  This quote says a lot about what a client needs to do in therapy. Basically a...

Can We Reparent Ourselves?

“They should call the Children’s Aid Society on me for abusing my inner child so much”.  Chris said this in a humorous manner. At the same time he was upset at how critical and hurtful he was towards himself. He is not alone. In my years as a Toronto therapist most of...