Can We Reparent Ourselves?

“They should call the Children’s Aid Society on me for abusing my inner child so much”.  Chris said this in a humorous manner. At the same time he was upset at how critical and hurtful he was towards himself. He is not alone. Most of my clients are very hard on...

Why It Is Important to Understand Our Past

  “Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.”  George Santayana Ellen literally stood up and screamed at me, “Don’t try to tell me I’m just some kind of little baby who hasn’t grown up.”  I wasn’t surprised by her behaviour because so many of my...

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Control

“Forces beyond your control can take away everything you possess except one thing, your freedom to choose how you will respond to the situation.”  ― Victor Frankl “I’ve done everything possible to stop his drinking, but I can’t control him.” “Every night I look...

We Are All Emotionally Vulnerable

‘Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is more common … . The frequent attempt to conceal mental pain increases the burden’.  C.S. Lewis Bill came into my office wearing dark glasses and looked around furtively before he entered. When he sat down he...

Mental Fitness

Therapy Is about developing mental fitness rather than focusing on mental illness. Over the years I have become aware that one of the biggest problems I face as a therapist is the negative attitude of people towards emotional and psychological health. Compare it to...