Why Is it So Hard For Me To Change?

In my Toronto therapy practice I have heard many people say this. Change can be very difficult and frightening. I speak to them about real change as opposed to cosmetic change. Real Change Happens on a Deep Level – Many people come to me to make a change in...

Trauma – It’s More Widespread Than Previously Believed

The word ‘trauma’ has become a common one in our language. It is widely recognized in the armed forces with the term PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) which describes the after affects of trauma We tend to associate trauma symptoms with extreme experiences such as...

What to do With a Troubled Partner

In my Toronto therapy practice I get many calls from partners of troubled people. The majority are women. They end with problems such as anxiety attacks, anger issues, signs of depression and stress management. They all want me to do therapy with their partners and...

Emotional Abuse – The Hidden Abuse

I refer to emotional abuse as ‘hidden’ because it is given far less recognition than other forms of abuse, such as physical or sexual. The victim is often blamed. They are “oversensitive” and basically not able to “take it, like other people do”. What is Emotional...

BEWARE of the Narcissist!

In my work as a Toronto therapist I have met many victims of narcissists. They are children, mates, employees, or friends of narcissists. They bear the scars: depression symptoms, anxiety attacks, self-esteem struggles and anger issues, to name a few. What is a...

The Hardest Person to Forgive – Yourself

Forgiveness is a subject that has been endlessly discussed. There are pros and cons. Some people insist it is necessary in order ‘to move on’. Others say forgiveness is forced and artificial. Whatever side you’re on it is agreed that we need to let go of past hurts. ...

Succeeding in Therapy

  ““My therapist has helped me learn to understand that if you don’t unpack your own emotional baggage it’s no longer baggage–it’s deadweight.”  ― Gina Barreca,  This quote says a lot about what a client needs to do in therapy. Basically a...

Can We Reparent Ourselves?

“They should call the Children’s Aid Society on me for abusing my inner child so much”.  Chris said this in a humorous manner. At the same time he was upset at how critical and hurtful he was towards himself. He is not alone. In my years as a Toronto therapist most of...

Why It Is Important to Understand Our Past

  “Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.”  George Santayana Ellen literally stood up and screamed at me, “Don’t try to tell me I’m just some kind of little baby who hasn’t grown up.” In a way she hadn’t grown up. A childhood trauma...