Over my 28 years of counselling I have developed beliefs about therapy that centre around 3 key ideas: 1/Counselling at a Deep Level 2/Respect 3/Therapy as Normal and Important.
I believe that any difficulties we have need to be faced and understood at a level that gets to the root of what ails us. The goal of depth counselling is to help a person explore the origins of their problems rather than just the symptoms.
Over the years, I have found that when I help people understand these origins, at a deep level, their change is more solid and lasting than just looking at the surface. I also believe that trying to ‘rise above’ a problem, a method that many people employ, does not produce lasting change
and resources and are capable of working effectively in this manner to make positive changes in their lives.I believe that the most positive counselling environment is one in which there is an equal and respectful relationship. The goal of my work as a counsellor and therapist is to provide people with a set of skills that will enable them to make positive changes in their lives. I use a multifaceted therapeutic approach that takes into account the particular needs and resources of each person.
I believe that the most positive counselling environment is one in which there is an equal and respectful relationship. I must respect the basic humanity of the person I am working with. Respect also includes listening, encouraging, congratulating and being helpful. A feature that is implied in this, but needs to be stressed, is kindness, which cannot be stressed enough.
Therapy As Normal and Important
Many of the people come to me consider therapy as a failure. They believe they have failed to be strong enough to deal with their own problems. In addition, having such problems means that they are abnormal. I tell them that everyone has the same human problems such as anxiety, depression, stress and other forms of psychological distress, to some degree. They are just not allowed to speak of them. However, these problems are basically pain, and the essential purpose of pain is to tell us that something within requires attention. That is why I strongly believe that therapy or any form of healing the mind and spirit is not only valid, but essential.