Can We Reparent Ourselves?

“They should call the Children’s Aid Society on me for abusing my inner child so much”.  Chris said this in a humorous manner. At the same time he was upset at how critical and hurtful he was towards himself. He is not alone. In my years as a Toronto therapist most of...

Why It Is Important to Understand Our Past

  “Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.”  George Santayana Ellen literally stood up and screamed at me, “Don’t try to tell me I’m just some kind of little baby who hasn’t grown up.” In a way she hadn’t grown up. A childhood trauma...

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Control

“Forces beyond your control can take away everything you possess except one thing, your freedom to choose how you will respond to the situation.”  ― Victor Frankl “I’ve done everything possible to stop his drinking, but I can’t control him.” “Every night I look...